Our companion animals shape our lives in ways that are often difficult to explain. They accompany us through seasons of joy and sorrow, teach us tenderness, offer quiet companionship, and remind us that love is often expressed in the smallest acts of presence.
When they become ill, grow old, or die, the grief that follows is real. Yet many people discover that this grief is not always understood or given space within their communities.
I believe it deserves that space.
As someone discerning a vocation in ordained ministry, I offer personalized memorial liturgies and services for beloved companion animals, prepared with care, reverence, and attention to the particular life being remembered. Every service is prepared individually, recognizing that every animal—and every relationship—is unique. Because each service is prepared individually, fees vary according to length, format, travel, and whether a memorial booklet is requested. Please contact me to discuss what would be most fitting. My approach is informed by my theological studies at the Atlantic School of Theology, my scholarship in grief, remembrance, and bereavement, my experience preparing and leading memorial services, and my own experiences of loving—and mourning—beloved companion animals. I know this grief is neither trivial nor “just about a pet.” It is the grief of losing someone who shared your home, your routines, your joys, and often your hardest days.
Services may include:
• A memorial or celebration of life
• Prayers following euthanasia or natural death
• Blessings before a difficult goodbye
• Scripture, poetry, or meaningful readings
• Lighting candles and sharing memories
• Naming the life and legacy of your companion
• Moments of silence, music, and reflection
• Blessings for ashes, collars, photographs, or keepsakes
While my own formation is within the Anglican tradition, I strive to offer care that is gentle, compassionate, and welcoming. Whether you are Christian, belong to another faith tradition, consider yourself spiritual, or simply desire a meaningful way to say goodbye, you are welcome. Additionally, please note with care: these services are not a replacement for counselling, veterinary care, or crisis support. They are a form of spiritual and pastoral accompaniment: a way to honour love, grief, gratitude, and remembrance with dignity.
Grief isn’t something to solve. It’s love continuing in the absence of someone deeply cherished.
If you’re seeking a memorial service, blessing, or simply wish to discuss what such a gathering might look like, I would be honoured to hear from you.
—Dr. Fallen Matthews
IDPhD • Theology Student • Companion Animal Memorial Celebrant
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